"Adult Bullies"

There are people in this world whose sole purpose in life might seem to be to bring you down. Have you ever felt that way? It seems like any time you're around them, they just function to rain on your parade and probably those of others too. I've focused so much on the people I surround myself with in the past year that these people and situations have become glaringly obvious. I've met a lot of what I like to call "adult bullies". They're full grown adults, but they act like children. To me, a major sign of maturity is respect for others. Adults ought to respect adults. Whether at the workplace or with family, there's people who are adult bullies- rude, disrespectful, and condescending. So what do you do in these situations? It never fails to hurt, so you're sad, which makes you mad. It becomes a mix of mad and sad and wondering if your adult bullies have a point.

I just remember who they are: adult bullies. Why do people bully others? It's usually a way to preserve themselves so that they don't have to get that from others. It's usually a defense mechanism. No, it doesn't make it okay. It's not okay to bully others, for lack of a better word to describe this behavior with adults. I've heard people say that you should serve them their own medicine. Might feel good in the moment, but bringing down others is never a good feeling. At least when I've tried that, I've always felt bad. First thing's first. Remember who you are and give yourself the worth and value that you deserve in spite of what others say or do. When someone makes you feel bad about yourself, know that you don't have to feel that way. Unless you are genuinely and intentionally a bad person, you don't deserve to feel bad about yourself.  But second, let them know and have that conversation about what happened and how it made you feel. If they have a good bone in their body they will take care to address their behavior in the future. If not, you've done your part.

-Cheryl Cherian

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