Forgiveness

Forgiving can be so incredibly hard. Especially when someone wrongs you and it just brings back everything that same person ever did to you. Why would you want to forgive them? Why do we forgive? The simple answer is, for peace of mind. I’m having a hard time forgiving someone and it just reminds me as always, that forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself. When you find yourself recalling a certain situation over and over, and the pain it caused you, it takes away from your happiness. It’s not fair to yourself, to you who has already been wronged, to do another injustice to yourself by not forgiving. Love yourself by letting it go.

If you want to maintain these relationships, it becomes very important to actually talk about what happened. Without closure, the situation will only find a way to come back to the surface again. Why did the situation take place the way that it did? Does the other party know just how it made you feel? Can we be sure this won't happen again? These unanswered questions are what might continually make it hard to forgive. Addressing them, versus not forgiving and hanging onto all of these questions, will ease your troubles to give you the peace of mind and happiness that you deserve. Forgiving does not always happen over night. When you find it hard to forgive, give yourself the time to feel how you feel, until you can find it in yourself to forgive.

-Cheryl Cherian

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